10 Easy Ways to Bring Self Care In Your Life

Self care doesn’t have to be elaborate and expensive. Yes, massages and facials are nice, but sometimes it’s not always possible to include those in our self-care routine all the time. And it shouldn’t be just one day of the week (or month) that you focus on taking care of yourself. (No more #selfcaresundays!) 

Taking care of yourself should be part of your daily routine. We have so much going on, our lives are so full with work, kids, partners, errands, housework, social media….. Most of us are exhausted and running on empty. It’s so important for our mental health and stress levels that we recharge ourselves, and take care of ourselves like we take care of those around us.

Here are 10 easy ways that you can incorporate self care in your life every day. Choose 1, a few, or all to do every day! #selfcareeveryday

1. Meditate. I know, it’s hard to meditate ever day, or just to meditate period because we have too much going on in our brains. But this is exactly why we need to meditate! To calm our brains, slow down, breathe deep and feel connected to ourselves. Whether it’s a few minutes, 5-10 minutes or longer, just do what feels good to you. Set a timer, sit in a comfy place, turn on the Calm App, and close your eyes and breathe.

2. Walk barefoot on the grass. Get out in the fresh air, and enjoy the feel of the earth beneath you. It’s super grounding and helps you feel connected to the earth, and re-centers yourself.

3. Read a fiction book just for fun. Pick something that feels like a guilty pleasure, and find 10 minutes to lose yourself in it. If reading is not your thing then listen to an audio book.

4. Journal. I know this is another one that can be hard, you might feel like you don’t know what to write. The point is to just get your thoughts out of your head and on paper. It releases them and can free up some mental space. And it can also help you create a vision for what you want in your life. I journal every morning on what I want my life to look like, and it helps me to feel like I can accomplish all of my goals.

5. Drink lots of water. Not coffee, not soda, and not La Croix. Just plain water. Most of us are running around dehydrated, and simply drinking more water to hydrate yourself will benefit your health, your skin, your energy levels, and help with over-eating. A good rule to follow is to drink half your body weight in oz. 

6. Go to bed early and get 7-8 hours sleep. Getting enough sleep is so important to our energy levels and feeling sane. And the more sleep we get, the less we have to rely on caffeine.

7. Take a bath. Light some yummy scented candles, grab a book or some relaxing music, throw in some bubbles, put a towel behind your head and just relax. I recommend at least 30 minutes but even 10 will be amazing.

8. Eat some high quality chocolate and savor it. And don’t feel guilty about the calories.

9. Move your body. Dance for 5 minutes to your favorite song. Take a quick walk with your dog. Do 10 minutes of yoga or stretching.

10. Connect live with someone you love that you don’t see every day. Call a friend or family member for a 10 minute chat. Better yet, meet up in person for a coffee or glass of wine. We are so addicted to technology and texting, email, social media that we forget how nourishing it is to connect live with someone.

What are some of your favorite easy ways to show yourself some love and care? What are you committed to trying today? Leave me a comment below.

xo,

Melissa

Top 5 Ways I Got Back To Myself After Baby

It’s been a year since I had Oliver, and I can’t believe how fast time has gone by, and how much has changed. When he was first born, my life was consumed with nursing, changing diapers, trying to get sleep, and getting to know him. Now we’ve settled into our routine, he’s becoming his own little person, and I’m able to focus on myself a little more.

I knew it would be so easy to stay in the mindset of being all about the baby, and I wanted to make sure I didn’t lose myself in the process of taking care of him and being a mama. As an introvert, I need lots of time to myself to recharge and feel sane, and being at home full time with the baby doesn’t leave a lot of time for that. It takes a lot of effort and planning to make sure that I do take care of myself so I feel fresh and nourished to be able to be the best mama I can to my little one (and a great wife to my husband).

Here are the 5 things that helped me get back to myself so I feel taken care of and refreshed.

  1. Exercise- Right before I got pregnant, I was tired of feeling lazy and out of shape, so I joined Orange Theory. A month later I found out I was pregnant! I worked out till I was 5 months pregnant, but it got too hard to do a lot of the exercises so I took a break. When I was 8 weeks post-partum, I started going back to Orange Theory because I missed it, and missed how good my body felt. It was hard getting back into it, but I kept going 2-3 times per week. I can’t tell you how good it’s been for my physical and mental health! And just this past weekend I realized that my pre-pregnancy jeans fit again!

  2. I got my hair back. Post-partum hair loss is for real! My hair had already been thinning before I got pregnant, and it was really devastating to me because I had always had so much hair before. And then 3 months post-partum I started having even more hair loss. Being a new mom, I felt like I didn’t have a lot of time to do my hair and makeup to feel pretty, so having the thick pregnancy hair helped me to still feel somewhat like myself. But having bald spots in my hair was really hard for me. I decided to try something new and I started using a luxury hair care line to get my hair supercharged and healthy. And within a month my hair started growing in like crazy. Having my hair look thicker again really helped me to feel more confident and pretty.

  3. Spent quality time with my husband and friends, with no baby. Most of the time Oliver is my constant companion for meet ups with friends or early family dinners. But having time alone with friends, even if it’s just a quick coffee date, or date nights with my husband is so important. It helps me remember who I am as a woman, a friend, and a partner, and be able to connect better with friends. And time alone with my husband helps us connect as romantic partners, not just parents in for a crazy ride.

  4. I got ready and put time into looking nice, even if it was just a trip to target. It’s so easy to just throw on some leggings and run out the door with no shower because the baby wouldn’t let you have time to get ready. I’ve always made sure I had time for a quick shower, because that is the one thing that makes me feel like a real person. And putting on a cute outfit, and taking a little time to brush my hair and put on foundation helps me feel better about myself and more confident, even if everything else that’s going on feels like a mess.

  5. I spent time with myself. I need lots of alone time to feel sane, so I made sure to take some time to do the things that I loved. I went to the movies by myself (such a treat with the new luxury recliners theaters that serve wine!), went shopping by myself, got my nails done, and even escaping to the bedroom to lose myself in a novel feels amazing.

If you’re a mom, it’s so important to take care of you! You spend so much time taking care of others, that it’s easy to let yourself be taken care of last. But by taking time for self care, alone time, and doing things that make you feel happy will keep you from feeling lost, depressed or depleted.

I’d love for you to share with me in the comments below what has helped you get back to yourself after having a baby. Or share with me one way you can commit to taking better care of yourself.

Xo,

Melissa