5 Ways a Life Coach Can Help You Live a Life You Love

When I first started on my personal development journey, I had no idea what coaching was. I thought it was someone telling me what I needed to do to fix my life. I wasn’t even sure I believed that coaching could really help me. 

What I didn’t realize is that this is actually the opposite of what life coaching really is. Coaching is seeing what’s possible for you in your life. It’s about helping you get clear on what you want, and creating a path to get there. It’s not about fixing you, but helping you to be your best self possible. In fact it doesn’t have to be about fixing what’s wrong in your life, but making your life even better than it already is.

Here are 5 ways a Life Coach can help you make your life even better.

1. Helping you get clear on your dreams and desires. You know you’re made for more, but sometimes it’s hard to put into words what we want. We’re afraid to admit what we want or dream too big, either because we think we’ll never get it, or it feels greedy to want it. A life coach can help you get clear on what you really desire in life, and to feel safe to dream even bigger.

2. Help you create a plan to get the life you want. You know what you want but you don’t know how to get there. A coach can you break down your goal or dream into easy steps to get there to avoid the overwhelm and help keep you focused and accountable for taking charge of your goal.

3. Help you access all the answers and your hidden knowledge and wisdom. You already have all the answers and the knowledge, but sometimes you need help realizing and drawing out what you already know. A coach will dig deep to bring out your inner wisdom so you will realize that you know so much more than you give yourself credit for.

4. Feel more confident in yourself and love yourself. We all have insecurities, and sometimes we let that negative voice in our head speak louder than our heart. A coach can help you discover and believe in your gifts and talents, and quiet that inner mean voice so you feel more confident in who you are and love who that woman is.

5. Break up any limiting beliefs that are keeping you from going after the things you want. Sometimes we have stories that we tell ourselves about why we can’t have what we want, or be who we want. These stories are keeping us stuck and and small. A coach can help you break up those stories and replace them with more positive ones that are true and inspire us to follow our dreams.

What are you struggling with that you’d love to get clear around? What’s keeping you from going after your dreams? Leave me a comment below.

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xo,

Melissa

How to Love Yourself

When I was growing up, I always thought it was selfish or wrong to like myself. I confused being humble with downplaying or depreciating my talents and gifts, and thought it was bragging or conceited if I said I was good at something. I was constantly telling myself I wasn’t smart enough, or others were way better than me. To me and my grade school friends, being conceited was the worst thing you could be. I was constantly picking myself apart at a young age, and it didn’t get any better as I got older.

This narrative stuck with me through my college years, and through my professional years, up until I started diving into personal development. Everywhere we look we are constantly being told we’re not good enough, whether it’s from the media, a terrible boss/coworker/acquaintance, or the mean voice in our head.

It had taken me years to get past this idea of not wanting to be seen as conceited, and to know that I am enough just as I am. And I’ll admit, some days there is a struggle to recognize that little voice trying to wear me down and tell it to fuck off. I have to nip it in the bud right away or it can easily spiral out of control.

Louise Hay’s book, You Can Heal Your Life, is one of the first personal development books I read that helped me realize that loving yourself is not selfish, conceited or bad. It’s actually necessary to live a happy and fulfilled life. It will help you in your relationships and business or career. And it can have a huge impact on your mental and physical health.

Now when those inner mean voices rear their heads, I take a minute to reflect and ask myself where they are coming from. Is it because of a desire I have for something that seems really big to achieve? Is it because I’m in a place of growth and about to try something new? Am I getting into comparison and need to remind myself that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be?

And then I calmly remind myself that I am enough. I am smart enough, good enough, pretty enough, successful enough….

I find 3 things that I love about myself and remind myself over and over until those voices go away.

What do you do when your inner mean voice is telling you you’re not enough? Share with me 1 thing that you love about yourself in the comments below that you can remind yourself next time it shows up in your head.

xo,

Melissa






How Hiring My First Coach Was One of The Scariest and Best Decisions I've Made

Back in 2014 I was feeling lost. On the surface everything seemed great: I had left my corporate career behind to pursue my own business of makeup artistry, and I was supporting myself as a working artist. My business was growing, I was in a loving relationship, and I was living in an exciting new city. 

But underneath it all I was not doing great. While I loved what I was doing, I was also feeling burnt out. I felt like I was working all the time, and that I had to take every job that came my way because you never knew when the next one would come along. Some months I would be booked solid and making great money. Then other months I would barely be working. It was so frustrating and stressful to be on the hamster wheel of feast or famine. 

I knew things needed to change. And while I loved doing hair and makeup, I knew I wanted to do something different. I wanted to make a bigger impact. I wanted to do more meaningful work. And I wanted to have more control of my time. Working more, or hustling more was not the lifestyle I wanted. 

I had just started doing some personal development by reading a few books, and following a few life coaches for their wisdom. I took an online course for building an online business. I was even working with some coaches doing hair and makeup for their photoshoots. Listening to them talk about their businesses and how they were impacting the lives of their clients was so inspiring for me. And I heard this little voice telling me, “you could do that too”. 

I listened to that voice, and started to really look at what kind of support I needed in my life to make the changes that I wanted to have the life I dreamed of. I knew that trying to do it on my own was taking way too long, and was not really working. I knew I needed the help of a coach to get me where I wanted to go. 

I discovered a high level mastermind that really spoke to me, and I knew I had to be a part of it. But the cost was so high, higher than anything else I had ever invested in besides my college education. So many thoughts were going through my head: was I insane to sign up for this when I technically couldn’t afford it? Would I really make any changes in my life because of it? Was it worth this much money, or more importantly, was I worth spending this much on myself? And how could I ever pay for this?

I went back and forth, over and over, but my heart felt pulled to make the leap and invest in myself. I couldn’t stay where I was, and I needed guidance to get me out of this place of being stuck. Clicking the button to sign up and pay my deposit was probably one of the scariest moments in my life. But I trusted myself and my intuition that this was the right decision for me, and that I would figure it out.

And I did! Each month I figured out how to make that big payment, and everything seemed to fall into place. I received so much clarity, guidance and support for how to get unstuck, and make a plan for the big picture of what I wanted my life to look like. I healed old wounds that I didn’t know needed to be healed to grow as a woman and an entrepreneur. I had someone in my corner to stand for me that I was worthy of my dreams, of investing in myself, and that I could achieve my goals. 

That year was really the foundation for where my life is now, and where it is going. I’m a mother, a wife, a creative, a working artist, an entrepreneur, and now a coach for women who are tired of letting fear run their lives. 

I’m here to stand for you and your dreams, and help you get clarity, get in touch with your intuition, and guidance to make the big changes for what you want your life to be. If you are feeling stuck, lost, unhappy with you life and know you’re meant for more, I invite you to a clarity call with me. You are worthy of having the life you dream of.

Click here to sign up to schedule a clarity session with me. https://melissahoffmannbeauty.as.me/claritysession

P.S. If you know of a woman who is feeling stuck in her life and wants to make big changes, I'd love it if you would share this post with her.

xo,

Melissa

I Am Enough, And So Are You

When I was growing up, I always thought it was selfish or wrong to like myself. I confused being humble with downplaying or depreciating my talents and gifts, and thought it was bragging or conceited if I thought I was good at something. I was constantly telling myself that I sucked, or wasn’t smart enough, or others were way better than me. To me and my grade school friends, being conceited was the worst thing you could be. I wouldn’t even recognize that I was pretty. I was constantly picking myself apart at a young age, and it didn’t get any better as I got older.

This narrative stuck with me through my college years, and through my professional years, up until I started diving into personal development. Everywhere we look we are constantly being told we’re not good enough, whether it’s from the media, a terrible boss/coworker/frenemie/acquaintance, or the mean voice in our head.

It had taken me years to get past this idea of not wanting to be seen as conceited, and to know that I am good enough just as I am. I’ll admit, some days there is a struggle to recognize that little voice trying to wear me down and tell it to fuck off. I have to nip it in the bud right away or it can easily spiral out of control. And let me tell you right now, being proud of who you are, your gifts and your accomplishments is not being conceited, or selfish, or having a big ego!

Louise Hay’s book, You Can Heal Your Life, is one of the first personal development books I read that helped me realize that loving yourself is not selfish or conceited or bad. It’s actually necessary to live a happy and fulfilled life. It will help you in your relationships and business or career. And it can have a huge impact on your mental and physical health.

Now when those inner mean voices rear their heads, I take a minute to reflect and ask myself where they are coming from. Is it because of a desire I have for something that seems really big to achieve? Is it because I’m in a place of growth and about to try something new? Am I getting into comparison and need to remind myself that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be?

I calmly remind myself that I am enough. I am smart enough, good enough, pretty enough, successful enough…. I find 3 things that I love about myself and remind myself over and over until those voices go away.

Share with me 1 thing that you love about yourself in the comments below! And share it with the world! You deserve to be recognized and appreciated for your special talents and gifts, and your “you-ness”.

xo,

Melissa



Same You, New Attitude

The other night I saw the Rachel Hollis documentary “Made For More”. (If you don’t know who Rachel Hollis is, she’s one of my new favorite inspirational women!). There were so many inspiring nuggets in there, but one that really stuck out for me was her mantra “Same You, New Mood”. So often we think we need to change ourselves to be this “new me”, especially at this time of year. You see it in the headlines all the time, “new year, new you”. Whether it’s dieting, losing weight, changing our look, exercising more, starting a new business or job, making more money, there’s this feeling that who we are isn’t good enough, and we need to become this new person to be happy.

But what if we weren’t always trying to be a “new me”, but embraced who we are now and just changed our mood, or our outlook on ourselves? So instead of the negative self talk, we decided to change our attitude towards ourselves and started saying more loving words to who we are? Or acknowledged all the wonderful things about us, instead of always looking for what you want to change? You can still want to grow or improve. I’m always going to be pursuing personal development, but think of it as adding to who we are rather than becoming a new person.

It can start with making a list of all your good qualities, or reflecting on the past year and the amazing things you’ve done. Or starting a gratitude practice for everything that’s good (and sometimes bad) in your life. Even in difficult times I’ve learned to look back at it as a lesson and find something to be grateful for.

So this is me, same me. A woman who is a new mom, a wife, a creative entrepreneur, an artist, a dreamer. A woman who is in transition in her business, who has big goals but doesn’t always know how to get there, or have the patience to get there. My new mood is I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be, and that I can figure anything out even when times get tough, because I always have. 

Same YOU, but what’s your NEW attitude? Leave me a comment below.

xo,

Melissa