How Hiring My First Coach Was One of The Scariest and Best Decisions I've Made

Back in 2014 I was feeling lost. On the surface everything seemed great: I had left my corporate career behind to pursue my own business of makeup artistry, and I was supporting myself as a working artist. My business was growing, I was in a loving relationship, and I was living in an exciting new city. 

But underneath it all I was not doing great. While I loved what I was doing, I was also feeling burnt out. I felt like I was working all the time, and that I had to take every job that came my way because you never knew when the next one would come along. Some months I would be booked solid and making great money. Then other months I would barely be working. It was so frustrating and stressful to be on the hamster wheel of feast or famine. 

I knew things needed to change. And while I loved doing hair and makeup, I knew I wanted to do something different. I wanted to make a bigger impact. I wanted to do more meaningful work. And I wanted to have more control of my time. Working more, or hustling more was not the lifestyle I wanted. 

I had just started doing some personal development by reading a few books, and following a few life coaches for their wisdom. I took an online course for building an online business. I was even working with some coaches doing hair and makeup for their photoshoots. Listening to them talk about their businesses and how they were impacting the lives of their clients was so inspiring for me. And I heard this little voice telling me, “you could do that too”. 

I listened to that voice, and started to really look at what kind of support I needed in my life to make the changes that I wanted to have the life I dreamed of. I knew that trying to do it on my own was taking way too long, and was not really working. I knew I needed the help of a coach to get me where I wanted to go. 

I discovered a high level mastermind that really spoke to me, and I knew I had to be a part of it. But the cost was so high, higher than anything else I had ever invested in besides my college education. So many thoughts were going through my head: was I insane to sign up for this when I technically couldn’t afford it? Would I really make any changes in my life because of it? Was it worth this much money, or more importantly, was I worth spending this much on myself? And how could I ever pay for this?

I went back and forth, over and over, but my heart felt pulled to make the leap and invest in myself. I couldn’t stay where I was, and I needed guidance to get me out of this place of being stuck. Clicking the button to sign up and pay my deposit was probably one of the scariest moments in my life. But I trusted myself and my intuition that this was the right decision for me, and that I would figure it out.

And I did! Each month I figured out how to make that big payment, and everything seemed to fall into place. I received so much clarity, guidance and support for how to get unstuck, and make a plan for the big picture of what I wanted my life to look like. I healed old wounds that I didn’t know needed to be healed to grow as a woman and an entrepreneur. I had someone in my corner to stand for me that I was worthy of my dreams, of investing in myself, and that I could achieve my goals. 

That year was really the foundation for where my life is now, and where it is going. I’m a mother, a wife, a creative, a working artist, an entrepreneur, and now a coach for women who are tired of letting fear run their lives. 

I’m here to stand for you and your dreams, and help you get clarity, get in touch with your intuition, and guidance to make the big changes for what you want your life to be. If you are feeling stuck, lost, unhappy with you life and know you’re meant for more, I invite you to a clarity call with me. You are worthy of having the life you dream of.

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P.S. If you know of a woman who is feeling stuck in her life and wants to make big changes, I'd love it if you would share this post with her.

xo,

Melissa

Stop Waiting To Be Perfect

Does wanting to be perfect hold you back from doing the things you want to do?

It has for me. I never considered myself a “perfectionist”. I thought being a perfectionist meant you were extremely type A, organized to a fault, and driven to the point of obsession. I’m definitely not Type A, I can be disorganized and lazy, and I’m driven, but sometimes I let fear take the wheel and keep me from going after my goals. 

But when I started to think about it, I actually am a perfectionist in some ways. I always wanted to be in the top academic classes in school (which I was), I try to excel at everything I do even if I’m not trying to be “the best”, and I have been known to try and portray the image that I have it all together. But my inner perfectionist really comes out when it comes to starting something new. My fear of not being good enough at it, and frustration at the thought of not mastering a new skill right away has actually kept me from following my heart and doing something new. 

3 years ago I wanted to become a photographer. But the thought of having to learn a completely new skill and art, learning how to work a camera, setting up a shoot, editing, was intimidating to me. Not to mention the fear that I might not be any good at it and constantly comparing myself to other photographers I admired.

It took me a year to admit that I wanted to pivot in my career and learn a new skill. And once I got clarity and could admit what I wanted, I decided to take action. I signed up for a workshop to learn photography and just see what happened.

It wasn’t easy. I struggled with learning how to use my new camera. I took photos that weren’t great and didn’t inspire me. But I kept practicing. I became obsessed with learning everything I could about my new art. And I asked for help from mentors. I got better with every shoot and started to feel more and more confident.

It took me a year to build up a portfolio I felt good about, and to feel confident about telling people I was a photographer. Now when I look back, I wonder what took me so long. The fear of not being “perfect” at my art kept me from learning a new skill that I love, and adding a side to my business that brings me so much joy. I’m by no means perfect in my art, but when I look at how far I’ve come in just a year, I feel proud of myself and what I’ve accomplished. I’m excited to grow as an artist and an entrepreneur, and see where my creative business takes me. And I’m grateful that I stopped letting my fear of not being perfect hold me back from doing something I love. 

Where in your life is your fear of being perfect holding you back from trying something new? What steps can you take today to stop letting that fear hold you back? Leave me a comment below.

If you're ready to stop letting your fears hold you back and you want to explore how coaching can help you get clarity around what you want and leave these fears behind, then click HERE to set up a complimentary discovery call with me. Don't let perfectionism keep you from living your dreams!

xo,

Melissa